IMMORTAL HOWDEN ENDER

In these times of stress let the words of Dr MacKenzie soothe: HOW TO STAY YOUNG 1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay "them!" 2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. 3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's. 4. Enjoy the simple things. 5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. 6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive. 7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge. 8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help. 9 Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is. 10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

like bestial

Psychological therapy is ma forte. :011:

Depends who is in charge.

Leadership: Do you have it in you? - Richa Pant - November 22, 2006 Nothing succeeds like success, they say. We all want to be successful in our careers, be it in our roles as individuals, team players or team leaders. Taking responsibility for one's actions is a key component of success as an individual. And taking responsibilty for what your team does is a key component of leadership. When one doesn't do that, failure is just around the corner. At your workplace, you will often hear people passing the buck when something goes wrong. These people are definitely not going very high up the ladder. You will find most of them projecting the same pattern in their reasoning and approach to life, as well -- that nothing was their fault, including the incidents that happen in their personal lives as well. Blame and excuses: hallmarks of an unsuccessful leader Avoiding responsibility in one's personal life carries over into one's professional life, and vice versa. Excuses for failure and the choices you make at workplace fuel dysfunctional thinking and, subsequently, undesirable behaviour and actions. "Making excuses, rather than taking 100 per cent responsibility for your actions, decisions, and their outcomes, is the hallmark of future failures," feels Anjali Singh, a 27-year old manager with a finance company in Delhi. This is why taking responsibility is so powerfully important and is the essence of what can make or break a leader. Take responsibility at workplace Taking responsibility is the underlying factor behind success at work. If someone in your team makes a mistake, you must be able to admit it, take the necessary action and then proceed. This is something that many do not understand. No leader can be successful without being accountable for his/her own actions. Being responsible ensures that even when events outside your control go awry, you can at least determine how you will react to the situation. You can make the situation a disaster or you can use it as an opportunity to learn and to grow. "My friend is a manager in a new startup venture. Every time we meet, I am taken aback by her failure to take responsibility for what's going on in her work and life. Everything is always someone else's fault. She explains away each problem with reasons about why she can't influence the outcome," says Anjali. "We are continuously confronted with external pressures at work that affect us greatly. It is how we react to these pressures that largely determine what we accomplish in our career. Those who take responsibility and recognise their own weakness in the way it relates to the problem are the ones who grow and accomplish. Those who blame others or ignore their roles, stagnate and achieve less," says Rishi Gupta, 29, a manager in a telecom company. Why people don't admit their mistakes "Mistakes bring about a feeling of tension and anxiety within the individual. At such times, the mind seeks rational ways of escaping the situation. A range of defence mechanisms can be triggered. These defence mechanisms are subconsciously employed to protect the ego and they tend to distort, transform, or otherwise falsify reality. One uses these 'deceptions' to avoid facing issues of guilt, failure, fear, emotional pain, or embarrassment. In distorting reality, there is a change in perception which helps to lessen anxiety," says psychologist Dr. Kanchan Misra. There are many defence mechanisms. Some examples are: Denial: Claiming/believing what is true to be false Projection: Attributing uncomfortable feelings to others Displacement: Redirecting emotions to a substitute target Rationalisation: Creating false but credible justifications Intellectualisation: Taking an objective viewpoint in order to ignore the emotional aspect Repression: Pushing uncomfortable thoughts into the subconscious "Some defence mechanisms are healthy. However, we sometimes either use them at the wrong time or overuse them, which can be destructive," says Dr Misra. For example, a leader whose team keeps failing, may misuse defence mechanisms such as rationalisation, projection, or denial, often. Common defensive expressions used at the workplace "It was not my fault." (blaming others without accepting personal responsibility) "It wasn't all that important." (belittling the act) "It happened a long time ago." (implying it doesn't matter anymore) "There was no other way out." (justification of wrong) "It only happened once." (rationalisation) "Everyone does it." (rationalisation) "I am only human." (indirectly blaming god) "Well, no one is perfect." (general comparison to shift the guilt) "The contract we lost was not a good one anyway." (a case of 'sour grapes' -- another defense mechanism)

You mean - in the dugout and the touchline ?

I am reliably informed that ya got the first four rite Alex and it will be the Bairns at home on the final day.

I think that most people would agree in respect fer McSwegan whereas Bazza should have been rested more but is a potential match winner. McSwegan will be released whilst the policy has to be to pamper Bazza. Anyway poor old DJS - what does a kilted driving feckin instructor with a mullet know about feckin football. Grabe - do ya need any driving lessons. :001: And feckin congratulations - Two feckin posts and unwittingly pretty **** good wind ups. I like ya. :015: :015: :015: :015: :015:

FAO Alex and Hairy: Here is a little song I wrote You might want to sing it note for note Don't worry be happy In every life we have some trouble When you worry you make it double Don't worry, be happy...... Ain't got no place to lay your head Somebody came and took your bed Don't worry, be happy The land lord say your rent is late He may have to litigate Don't worry, be happy Lood at me I am happy Don't worry, be happy Here I give you my phone number When you worry call me I make you happy Don't worry, be happy Ain't got no cash, ain't got no style Ain't got not girl to make you smile But don't worry be happy Cause when you worry Your face will frown And that will bring everybody down So don't worry, be happy (now)..... There is this little song I wrote I hope you learn it note for note Like good little children Don't worry, be happy Listen to what I say In your life expect some trouble But when you worry You make it double Don't worry, be happy...... Don't worry don't do it, be happy Put a smile on your face Don't bring everybody down like this Don't worry, it will soon past Whatever it is Don't worry, be happy :001: :001:

But I have spent 30 years looking after people like you. :001:

Plus tactical mistakes that cost us a Scottish Cup Semi Final and the possibility of a Top Six finish. And that means many spondoolachs - especially if we drift down to 10th as looks likely. Says the teletubby :015: :015: :015: :015: :015:

My Auntie Betty is a regular church goer and never lies.

sabbath

of~Charlie Christie

NO - Telepathic :022:

PL to Livi was CC to ICT. He has learned a lot since. May get in trouble fer this revelation but I am reliably informed that he has already been sounded out.

Brewster brought FIT to ICT - he had his faults - but he admitted when he was wrong. CC has had NO consistency, made mistakes BUT blamed on anything else than himself.

Sorry Alex - but the only OF brains are yours and Hairy - tunnel visioned and with their heads in the sand. Feckin programmed into the feckin system!!!

Ya see Hairy and Rigger - that is the difference between youse and I - life experience and an idea of the pressures of management and leadership - and probably a more refined footballing brain - plus the fact I am well in touch with the ins and outs of ICT (which I usually hide in sarcasm and wind up) - and, as usual ya are getting too emotionally involved and cant smell the feckin coffee - In respect to ya both it is applauded that ya have such blind devotion to the club - but business is business. :018: :018: Of course the Board has been split since day one. CC was a popular but very debatable choice. ICT had got fed up of being a breeding ground fer managers and were looking fer some long term stability. Most people gave him support but he has fallen at the Beechers Brook. I love CC - he is a feckin legend - but he is not a manager. He has given his best but I feel that he should have had someone experienced ABOVE him rather than DP BELOW him - he will go as well and have a lot to feckin say!!! I want him to go fer his own sake and fer the sake of this club. Fer fecks sake the decision has been made already - it has feck all to do with us. I have only joined in this debate because of his attitude initially but he has made BIG tactical mistakes and I have knowledge of the dressing room feeling. Shurely ya must see that he has shot himself in the foot and the only way forward fer ICT is a change of management and a dirge of the playing staff. And from what I have heard - we have a backer willing to come forward with some spondoolachs - but not in the current state of affairs. And finally - DO NOT EVER ACCUSE ME OF DISLOYALTY - I wind ya all up and I take the **** but my inside info. is usually spot on and all I ever have at heart is the best interest of INVERNESS CALEDONIAN THISTLE FC. Undoubtedly you do to - but in a blind and possibly devoted fashion. And I bet ya £100.00 to charity on PL - who allegedly has already been sussed out - or, at least, according to my Auntie Betty in Wycombe. :016:

A vote of confidence from the Board.

And now, the end is here And so I face the final curtain My friend, I'll say it clear I'll state my case, of which I'm certain I've lived a life that's full I traveled each and ev'ry highway And more, much more than this, I did it my way Regrets, I've had a few But then again, too few to mention I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway And more, much more than this, I did it my way Yes, there were times, I'm sure you knew When I bit off more than I could chew But through it all, when there was doubt I ate it up and spit it out I faced it all and I stood tall and did it my way I've loved, I've laughed and cried I've had my fill, my share of losing And now, as tears subside, I find it all so amusing To think I did all that And may I say, not in a shy way, "Oh, no, oh, no, not me, I did it my way" For what is a man, what has he got? If not himself, then he has naught To say the things he truly feels and not the words of one who kneels The record shows I took the blows and did it my way! Yes, it was my way Bring on the saviour :022:

Yes - but when you lose the support and respect of your employers and you are not meeting your trajectories - you are fecked. And Donmac et al. I supported CC for a long time and the first beef I had was his attitude and lack of fan appeal. It is now just a matter of time. One rumour is that he may go this week - the stronger one is that he is given the unenviable task of producing performances against the Huns and the Bairns. But has he got the support of the dressing room and the committment to fight to help him keep his job. I fear not. Have to go - Mrs IHE is shouting that Richard feckin Gough is on the blower!! But my serious money is on PAUL LAMBERT. :022:

Good post Chris but have to add that the levels of fitness have dropped markedly, the team spirit - apart from the big games where motivation is seldom needed - has noticeably dwindled and I have rarely seen the fans so disgruntled. I really am aware that there are major splits in the playing staff.

It simply just has to be repeated - and potentially to the end of the season.

The P&J pinch another IHE exclusive. :003: This debate has been going on fer weeks but has increased since the Cellic defeat - which IMHO you can not put down to the players - it has to be lain at the door of CC. There are some major clashes going on in the dressing room and ya can see the effect on the pitch. I am now reliably informed that the meeting with Messrs Bennett and Savage is more about CC's future and a move within the club structure. The wages and money offer will go to the new incumbent - and my possible premonition on Colin Hendry may come true. :022: