IMMORTAL HOWDEN ENDER

Type 3 - the feckin moderator.

This is the new Board.

Good spot.

I thought it was about Brew having to leave becos of personal and geographical reasons. :thumb04: :018:

hahaha what exactly do i have to gloat about, ok we are top but we are only half way through the season as you lot are as well :thumb04: :018: ;) I suppose so - If I had to support those turds I wouldnt gloat either.

So is the David Sutherland being quoted in the Courier a Type 1 or a Type 2 ? And Brewster ?

Have we got the cnuts sweating or wot ? The sociopaths are under pressure.

Has nobody clicked that the signing of Elvis would be a "Tulloch" signing - it would allow them to pay off Brew and have a cheap manager in the offing - It would mean that Robbo from the "Orion" corner could be forgotten. The feckin transfer window is open - the only good that Elvis could do is loans from Cellic.

Actually the one serious comment is in regard to the compemsation payments - wonder how much Brews pay off would be ?

Why dont you get back into yer Perth hole and gloat in silence.

Feck me I'm all shook up. Could be Any Day Now. Baby I dont care. I am going to be crying in the chapel if the Big Boss Man goes. But he could be a devil in disguise or do you say Dont be cruel. Oh well I suppose when Fools rush in Froggy went a courtin. I would like this thread to be gentle on my mind and get my mojo working and to help me through the night in Heartbreak Hotel. This could be the Impossible Dream so Im so lonesome I could cry. Love me Tender and Return to sender.

Currently inhabited by a Mr Fraser, Mr Bennett and a Mr Brewster. But can somebody tell the future and reflect our current predicament in song ? : http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=FoOiy2FYuJA ENJOY - happy new year

Feck me I'm all shook up. Could be Any Day Now. Baby I dont care. I am going to be crying in the chapel if the Big Boss Man goes. But he could be a devil in disguise or do you say Dont be cruel. Oh well I suppose when Fools rush in Froggy went a courtin. I would like this thread to be gentle on my mind and get my mojo working and to help me through the night in Heartbreak Hotel. This could be the Impossible Dream so Im so lonesome I could cry. Love me Tender and Return to sender.

In psychology-related slang, control freak is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done. It can also refer to someone with a limited number of things that they want done a specific way; professor of clinical psychology Les Parrott wrote that "Control Freaks are people who care more than you do about something and won't stop at being pushy to get their way."[1] In some cases, the control freak sees their constant intervention as beneficial or even necessary; this can be caused by feelings of superiority, believing that others are incapable of handling matters properly, or the fear that things will go wrong if they don't attend to every detail. In other cases, they may simply enjoy the feeling of power it gives them so much that they automatically try to gain control of everything around them. SO HOW DO YOU COPE WITH THEM - Whoever they may be ?? Most all of you have had to contend with control freaks. These are those people who insist on having their way in all interactions with you. They wish to set the agenda and decide what it is you will do and when you will do it. You know who they are ? they have a driving need to run the show and call the shots. Lurking within the fabric of the conversation is the clear threat that if you do not accede to their needs and demands, they will be unhappy. Certainly, it?s natural to want to be in control of your life. But when you have to be in control of the people around you as well, when you literally can?t rest until you get your way ? you have a personality disorder. While it?s not a diagnostic category found in the DSM IV (the therapist?s bible for diagnostic purposes) an exaggerated emphasis on control is part of a cluster of behaviors that can be labeled as compulsive generally characterized by perfectionism, orderliness, workaholic tendencies, an inability to make commitments or to trust others and a fear of having their flaws exposed. Deep down, these people are terrified of being vulnerable. They believe they can protect themselves by staying in control of every aspect of their lives, including their relationships. Control freaks take the need and urge to control to new heights, causing others stress so they can maintain a sense of order. These people are riddled with anxiety, fear, insecurity, and anger. They?re very critical of themselves their lover and their friends, but underneath that perfect outfit and great body is a mountain of unhappiness. Let?s look at what makes control freaks tick, what makes you want to explode, and some ways to deal with them. The Psychological Dynamics That Fuel a Control Freak The need to control is almost always fueled by anxiety ? though control freaks seldom recognize their fears. At work, they may worry about failure. In relationships, they may worry about not having their needs met. To keep this anxiety from overwhelming them, they try to control the people or things around them. They have a hard time with negotiation and compromise and they can?t stand imperfection. Needless to say, they are difficult to live with, work with and/or socialize with. Bottom Line: In the process of being controlling, their actions say, ?You?re incompetent? and ?I can?t trust you.? (this is why you hate them). Remember, the essential need of a control freak is to defend against anxiety. Although it may not be apparent to you when they are making their demands, these individuals are attempting to cope with fairly substantial levels of their own anxiety. The control freak is usually fighting off a deep-seated sense of their own helplessness and impotence. By becoming proficient at trying to control other people, they are warding off their own fear of being out of control and helpless. Controlling is an anxiety management tool. Unfortunately for you, the control freak has a lot at stake in prevailing. While trying to hold a conversation and engage them in some way, their emotional stakes involve their own identity and sense of well-being. Being in control gives them the temporary illusion and sense of calmness. When they feel they are prevailing, you can just about sense the tension oozing out of them. The control freak is very frightened. Part of their strategy is to induce that fear in you with the subtle or not so subtle threat of loss. Since the emotional stakes are so high for them, they need to assert themselves with you to not feel so helpless. To relinquish control is tantamount to being victimized and overwhelmed. When a control freak cannot control, they go through a series of rapid phases. First they become angry and agitated, then they become panicky and apprehensive, then they become agitated and threatening, and then they lapse into depression and despair. Repetition Compulsion Control freaks are also caught in the grip of a repetition compulsion. They repeat the same pattern again and again in their attempt to master their anxiety and cope with the trauma they feel. Characteristically, the repetition compulsion takes on a life of its own. Rather than feel calmer and therefore have a diminished need to be controlling, their behavior locks them into the same pattern in an insatiable way. Successes at controlling do not register on their internal scoreboard. They have to fight off the same threat again and again with increasing rigidity and intransigence. Two Types of Control Freaks Type 1 Control Freaks: The Type 1 control freak is strictly attempting to cope with their anxiety in a self absorbed way. They just want to feel better and are not even very aware of you. You will notice and hear their agitation and tentativeness. They usually do not make much eye contact when they are talking to you. Type 2 Control Freaks: The Type 2 control freak is also trying to manage their anxiety but they are very aware of you as opposed to the Type 1 control freak. The Type 2 needs to diminish you to feel better. Their mood rises as they push you down. They do not just want to prevail; they also need to believe that they have defeated you. They need you to feel helpless so they will not feel helpless. Their belief is that someone must feel helpless in any interchange and they desperately do not want it to be them. The Type 1 needs control. The Type 2 needs to control you. Some Coping Strategies 1) Stay as calm as you can. Control freaks tend to generate a lot of tension in those around them. Try to maintain a comfortable distance so that you can remain centered while you speak with them. Try to focus on your breathing. As they get more agitated and demanding, just breath slowly and deeply. If you stay calm and focused, this often has the effect of relaxing them as well. If you get agitated you have joined the battle on their terms. 2) Speak very slowly. Again the normal tendency is to gear up and speak rapidly when dealing with a control freak. This will only draw you into the emotional turmoil and you will quickly be personalizing what is occurring. 3) Be very patient. Control freaks need to feel heard. In fact, they do not have that much to say. They have a lot to say if you engage them in a power struggle. If you just listen carefully and ask good questions that indicate that you have heard them, then they will quickly resolve whatever the issue is and calmly move on. 4) Pay attention to your induced reactions. What is this person trying to emotionally induce in you? Notice how you feel when speaking with them. It will give you important clues as to how to deal with them more effectively and appropriately. 5) Initially, let them control the agenda. But you control the pacing. If you stay calm and speak slowly, you will be in command of the pacing of the conversation. 6) Treat them with kindness. Within most control freaks is a good measure of paranoia. They are ready to get angry and defend against what they perceive is a controlling hostile world. If you treat them with respect and kindness, their paranoia cannot take root. You will jam them up. 7) Make demands on them-- especially when dealing with the type 2 control freak. Ask them to send you something or do something for you. By asking something of them, you will be indicating that you are not intimidated or diminished by their behavior patterns. 8) Remember an old but poignant Maxim: ?Those who demand the most often give the least.? Keep in mind that control freaks are not trying to hurt you ? they?re trying to protect themselves. Remind yourself that their behavior toward you isn?t personal; the compulsion was there before they met you, and it will be their forever unless they get help. Understand that they are skilled manipulators, artful and intimidating, rehearsed debaters and excellent at distorting reality. In order to not feel degraded, humiliated and have your sense of self and self worth assaulted, you need to avoid being bulldozed by a controlling lover, boss or friend. When you are caught up in a truly destructive/controlling attachment, the best response may be to walk out. You have to understand that whatever you do will have a limited effect. These people are angry and afraid to let go of you. Hence, it is your job to let go of them, protect yourself in the process? and grow.

Here we have George Fraser, Graham Bennett and King Craig Brewster going into 2009 - but who is the fecker out of picture ?

At feckin last - A journo who confronts Brewster - well done Charlie B. Sorry dont know how to feckin add it to this post but is that the voice of a struggling man or what - just hear how his tone and attitude changes when he is actually confronted fer once - especially when Black is mentioned (yeah that is the proof that Brew wants Black to stay!!) - and he was either passing the blame on to Grasser or digging an even deeper hole !! Then the interview shuddered to a halt when the great man was confronted about Cowie, Wilson, the transfer window and midfield. And his comments about morale !! Confidence is "clearly low" but all we have to do is "work harder" :thumb04: Fer fecks sake all we have to do is THINK SMARTER - then he says that we have to do "what we are good at" - but how can we when this eejit plays systems that denies this. But the biggest joke of all was his defence of the Fir Park shambles - WE DIDNT STOP THE CROSSES - WE CANT DEFEND DEAD BALLS - DOH - well how do you stop deep crosses WHEN you play five across the back - in a deep fashion - one in the hole - one in the middle ten yards in front - Cowie trying to support Wood and Imrie in nowhere land - DOH - I thought the reasoning behind playing three central defenders was to organise to defend against crosses, not to give the strikers space, tugging at their shirts and attacking the feckin ball - So it wasnt Proctor and Maguire at fault - it was Imrie, Cowie and Russell Duncam was it. This poor **** is embarrasing himself and the club - If only he was a feckin horse.

Feck me Ironside - I have changed my mind about getting you to defend me - How long does it take to smell the feckin coffee in rural Aberdeenshire. :thumb04: :018:

Whoopee :thumb04: :018: Some of you are also finally beginning to catch on that there is a political side to our current problems. ;) But that is a power game that will resolve itself although I am again heartened that the fan influence is finally beginning to have an effect - the media will follow suit if we keep up the pressure. Sutherland and co have always used the "be happy where you are" tact in the past but we are happy where we are and dont want to go back - that is a wee bit different. But the crux of the matter - AND THIS IS SO IMPORTANT - that the Board will be looking very closely at the attendance at the Supporters Club Meeting - if it is the usual suspects they will declare that it is evidently a minority stirring the proverbial - I am a long way away and cant attend but I would ask anyone in the Sneck area to attend - you dont have to say anything but you arethere to show faith and support. The other isue will be the atmosphere and how things are said - for those who know me - being an IHE type plays rite into their hands - be a Johndo and think about what you are going to say and how you put it across. I intend to correspond with DJS to succinctly pass on my views and ask that my correspondence is adressed to the masses. May I suggest that as many of the far flung support do likewise and the Supporters Trust can go to the meeting, waving their e-mails and stating that so and so cant attend but felt strongly enuff to contribute - and point out that - hopefully - these fans are spread across the globe. Perhaps we should have a sticky thread on here and that can be used for the far flung support. And finally a bit of constructive criticism - I applaud the Supporters Trust for holding this meeting - I know most of the members and know how passionate and committed that they are - but you lot have been controlled by the powers to be - who are experienced businessmen (also known as sociopaths) - the fact that the othe DS has responded is a power play against yerselves - He is trying to bully and intimidate YOU. So PLEASE - get yerselves prepared - you need to have a clear agenda - with just a few (2-3) main points - that has to be presented well at the start and that has to be shown to be supported. And keep away from the Stadium move, Orion and Tulloch - focus on what we are really worried about - the perceived management of the club; the concerns about losing good players, not being able to attract signings; the performance and especialy the tactics on the park and the fear of a slip to the SFL. Mr Sutherland has brightened up my New Year - he is clearly worried - and so he feckin should be.

Feck aff ya bunch of erse licking, two faced eejits - I painted the sith buttock from the left..

I want a cup run and I would never have thought that I would support a boycott. BUT are the fans actually cheering on and encouraging the players recently - if anything it is the other way around - It sounds like that there has been a fair degree of silence or booning or anti - Brew songs. The players may actually be better without the atmosphere - but a boycott would be the ideal way to REALLY make a point. Me - I hope that the Huns make the Cup a bit more of an entertainment

Funny how things can be interrupted differently. During an interview where he's obviously been instructed to pedal the party line I read this one line as possibly showing encouragement/support for the fans to keep on making their views known. Aye Don - its the art of reading between the lines - It is like following a script without touching on any nerves and not really meaning what you say or leaving it to interpretation. But why cant our gutless Board see that ?

Well that says a lot for the intelligence of this site - I must have read the lines wrong

I actually feel sorry fer Grasser as I have still got respect fer him - He is ICT through and through but I am afraid he has been used as a pawn at a higher business level than he was ever able to function in - I put Grasser on a level with Charlie Christie - well I did. John Beaton is a great fella with a great footballing brain - who can ever forget the way that he brought Columba FC into the Welfare and produced the best amateur footballing sides fer decades. He even had the sense to bring an old head as the captain and role model to the effervescent youngsters.

This is more what a forum should be - fer too long we have been controlled or channelled by the Board. At last fans are united and being allowed to have their say - this is fan power at its best. Just think about the political connotations of Robbo and Bazza joining the throngs - thankfully there is always the stirring **** who can read between the lines as well - Reckon I will hire Stevico fer protection the next time I am at TCS.

The Board are struggling fer their existence just like Brewster - it is a sad case of one for all and all fer one - it has feck all to do with football - it is all about internal politics and power - they blow Brewster away and they blow themselves away - unfortunately they are blowing away the club at the same time. Bring Back Robbo - let them have their Shearer - then kick out Bennett - move Robbo up - then kick out Shearer - new manager in with Bazza as the No 2 - and the money to back it all up.