One subtle difference DD. Scottish media aren't networked.
If Scotland are playing you get your own commentators for the English regions.
If England are playing we get Clive Tyldesley.......
But yes, I think most of it is healthy banter and the hatred thing is exaggerated by media looking for a few idiots to provide a 'man bites dog' story. If there was as much anti-Englishness as the Daily Mail would have us believe, no English person would ever want to live here.
I wish the England lads well, the same guys I watch on MOTD every week. But if Scotland aren't there, the emotional side is completely absent.